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Why do people with ADHD seem to struggle so much in relationships? Why do partners with the ADD/ADHD brain type suffer year after year, never resolving the same frustrating communication issues?

The negative cycle can be broken easily once you know how. Some parts may seem like common sense, and others are tricks that will surprise you. In some ways, these strategies will feel like a profound undertaking—and yet in others, it’s as easy as tweaking your weekly routine. This combination of internal reflection, modified partner interaction, and public activities will transform your contentious relationship into a peaceful one. It has been perfected through years of work with ADHD couples.

Excerpt from the eBook:

Secret #1

This interaction is very typical of an ADHD Couple:

• You make a comment – it feels negative so I take it personally – I withdraw or react with anger
• A revolving circle of negative reactivity will continue until one person chooses to stop the pattern.

And what is at the heart of this dysfunction?

Making assumptions. Every time we assume someones’ intention, we act as if we are 100% sure we know what the other person was going to say or do. Can that possibly be true? Research shows that typically 70% or more of the time we are wrong.

In a couple relationship we like to think we know, without asking, what our partner’s intention is when an interaction occurs that we consider negative toward us. We prefer to make an assumption either because it’s easier (we’ve known them long enough to understand how they think, right?) or because it better serves our purposes. However, when we assume the worst about our partner’s intentions time after time, we ignore the fact we are building deep resentments and losing opportunities to resolve issues. We also are acting blind to the fact we may be wrong about our interpretation of their behavior or what may be behind their comment or action. We could be acting on false assumptions, cheating ourselves out of a good relationship and not knowing it. Over time, making wrong assumptions robs us of loving connection and can eventually result in ending our relationship.

Find out what Maura and Jack did to end their cycle of making false assumptions about each other.

Learn the five steps you can use to abandon your cycle and habit of making the wrong assumptions.

Discover how each of the Top Six Secrets of Successful ADHD Couples can give you the relationship you long for.

Give the greatest gift of all to yourself and your partner by enriching your relationship thorough practicing the Six Secrets.

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